February is dedicated to the month of love because of Valentine’s Day which is an ancient practice. Most of us usually go all out on this day to make our significant other feel special which is beautiful. Being the person that I am, I do not accept things at face value but rather analyze the true meaning of love. Real love should be celebrated everyday through our acts of kindness and the actions we implement to show each other that we genuinely care. Gift giving should be an extra cherry on the top. Actions usually speaks louder than words. That is where a person’s true honor lies. Through small acts of kindness every day. This usually makes the bond between two people stronger. For example: Giving a genuine compliment, helping with the chores and spending quality time with each other. This is usually uninterrupted time which means no cellphones or technology to interrupt.
What happens if we do not have that special person to celebrate with? Well that is perfectly fine. I am a firm believer that love begins by loving yourself. First show love and care to yourself because when we are happy with ourselves, others start noticing and you spread the ripple effects. It becomes contagious!
Many of you may ask what does self-love consist of, and that is fairly simple. Self- love is making time to do the things you love. Even if you may have a busy schedule you can always spare 15 minutes to do something for yourself (E.g. treat yourself to a cup of tea). Which assists in rejuvenating yourself. Celebrate and treat yourself for all the little achievements. Go for a walk on the beach, read books or even take on a new hobby. Anything that brings you joy is self-love. Above all, treating yourself with love, kindness and compassion is most important.
Love can be celebrated with your family members. Our families are sometimes the only ones there in the midst of life’s turmoil, giving unconditional support. They usually understand us on a deeper level. Let us show our appreciation to them through daily acts of kindness, love and gratitude.
Lastly, the love of our friends. We do not need a lot of friends. Life has taught me that its quality over the quantity of friends we have that matters. It is good to keep track of all the people who belong in our inner circle. Our inner circle consists of people who support, encourage, love, care, create a positive atmosphere for us, forgiving, trustworthy, non-judgmental and blissful people. They usually create a harmonious environment and we enjoy being around their company. You can decide who belongs in your close circle because not everyone is our friend and we need to be wary about that. Our inner circle may include our friends and family.
Who are our friends? A friend is someone who you can trust, confide in and know that whatever is said is held in confidence. A friend is someone who will make time for you during the good and bad times. They are always there when we need them and if they cannot be there when we need them due to a hectic schedule they will always call us to reschedule because they value the friendship enough. A friend accepts us for who we are and they genuinely care about our well-being. I particularly admire those friends whom we may not see often but whenever you meet them it feels like you did not spend time a part. That instant connection is truly beautiful. A true friend always believes in you no matter what and is most honest. That is the friend you hold onto and keep. Celebrate the love of your friendship.
So let us spread love all year round to everyone who touches our lives and adds value. Always remember to love yourself first completely then you can share that love to those around you.