When talking about bullying it is often resonated with children in a school environment. However, this is the initial stage where bullying begins. Bullying does not only occur in a school environment, it is becoming prone in the working environment as well.
What is bullying? It is commonly known as physical intimidation and verbal aggression. Here are some examples:
1. Insulting, offensive languages and comments.
2. Aggressive or intimidating behaviour.
3. Spreading rumours or misinformation.
4. Nit picking and fault finding without justification.
5. Deliberately withholding or denying access to information, supervision or resources that are vital for effective work performance.
6. Setting unreasonable deadlines, tasks or targets.
7. Having one’s abilities undermined.
8. Being excluded from certain events, important meetings and emails.
Reasons for bullying: It is commonly known that bullying occurs as a battle of power control. Psychology tells us that the bully feels inferior. The bully often suffers from low self-esteem. However, this is not so obvious and evident simply because, they portray themselves as confidant, outgoing, charismatic and charming. The bully particularly loves to get close to anyone of power, especially their boss at work. This prevents them from being exposed for their behaviour, as this will be hard for anyone to believe. Bullies often assume the victim role when they feel threatened and are about to get caught.
The reasons for this behaviour is to divert the attention from what they have caused. The bully usually makes up stories in order to get sympathy from their superiors.
Victims of bullying: The person being bullied in the workplace is often someone who is excelling at work. They are skilled and talented employees who are gaining recognition for their work. Continued bullying results in; it affecting one’s focus/concentration on their work. The reason for this is simply because we spend most of our time at work and when we are victims of bullying it really takes its toll on the individual. Most individuals often self-blame and tend to take it as a personal failure.
It is important to note that when these feelings occur, you should do the following:
1. Speak to someone you trust.
2. Document the incident as they occur. Simply because the bully may change the story. This will serve as proof.
3. Do not retaliate in the same behaviour.
4. When gossip is being spread about you, it is only natural to defend yourself. However, people always believe what they want. You have to stay true and authentic to yourself. Do not allow the bully to break you down as this will be their aim.
5. It may be difficult to physically distance yourself from the bully. However, try to distance yourself emotionally.
6. Recognize signs of depression, sadness, isolation, poor concentration and sleep patterns that may occur with you.
Always remember that, you cannot change anyone. Choose yourself and know that you are important. Invest in yourself.